We have posted many articles about being careful as you meet people online.
When making contact with you, they start by complimenting you on your looks. This is a statement that everyone wishes to hear, but how do you know if it’s real?
Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.
How can someone honestly love you before having met you in person? How can someone want to spend the rest of their life with you when they have known you less than a month? You are using a dating site to protect your privacy and help you avoid scammers.
Don’t fall for whatever their reason is to write to them directly prior to meeting them in person. They don’t answer the questions asked in your emails. Another indication that something problematic is going on is when there is distance between where you both live — and they aren’t advocating a meeting.
It is almost as if some of their mail is sent automatically, like you are on their list and this is the next standard email that is sent out. When you indicate that you’ll be in their area and would like to get together, they can’t meet you. The pictures posted may or may not be the actual person.
This is a great test; ask to meet them soon after the introduction. Most people who earn a decent living wish to be wanted for who they are, not for their income. Ask the person to send you a picture of themselves via the mail. Notice the background in the pictures posted online. Does it show a big house, a new boat, or something else that yells wealth?If there are continual excuses, then you know the person doesn’t really live where they say they do, and/or they are not truly interested in you. Yet, scammers will often indicate that they make more than 0,000 a year. Shortly after the introduction, the person asks about your financials as they wish to know what kind of person they are dealing with. They would rather write and they don’t usually answer the questions that you ask. Again, people who have real wealth do not advertise it.This way, when they get into a jam and request money, the unsuspecting person thinks their investment or loan will actually get reimbursed. In other words, they are really wishing to find out if you are worth their time to scam as you have financial resources to share. So, when a picture flagrantly indicates wealth, one needs to consider if that picture is even real. But, it is easy for a scam to be set up by a foreigner, even one who is not currently in the United States.Think about your friendships—do they ask you about your financials? Did the person go to a boat dock and simply stand in front of a great looking boat and have their picture taken? One of the more popular scams is to pretend to be a resident who has either recently moved to the states in the last two years, or who is in the process of moving to the states.Did they ask a realtor to show them an expensive house and then have their picture taken at the house? They get called back to their home country, or South Africa, to do a lucrative job, with either really important people or for a really good commission or a big paycheck. Don’t they have friends or family that could help them out if the situation was true?Once overseas, something horrible happens that leaves them broke or close to broke—their money got stolen from their hotel, the taxi cab driver stole it, the airlines forced them to check their luggage and their money was in their carry-on bag that was now checked. If they are asking someone that they barely know, it is either a scam or they have burnt their previous bridges.