(Other than that though, totally love spending time with her.) I've dated girls like this and it bothers me to the core. I would say if you want a fling go for it but I wouldn't invest too much into it emotionally as you might get hurt. You also know that she asked to be teased and played with, so I say be merciless. I'm not saying anything bad about her but I want to know how to get on her level, like I know I hate flirting but I want some tips or something just to keep her interested? If she's interested in you, she should be as willing to make an effort for you, to play by your rules, as you are to make that effort for her.
People don't have to be the same to be able to function together, but in my opinion there should be the same amount of effort from both sides to make it work. Sounds like she wants to play the typical hard to get part. It begins with the mindset that you want to have fun and play around - not achieve some goal. I find that many INTJs that seem ice cold and super serious are actually quite playful and fun - once they've warmed up towards you. Just try to be confident with her and relax, and the playfulness will come, with time.You could try it her way if you want, but if you find that it's not "you", then there's no point to continue - if you would, she wouldn't fall for the real you anyway. All you have to do is stay relaxed but make an effort to engage her. Reading a script on how to do it might not be a good idea - as Haumea says, it's easy to look through it if you're not in the right mindset.You could of course try to be innovative with teasing and playing games, and find a way that works for you. But, you could treat this situation like an experiment: gaining flirting skills that will help you when pursuing a better fit, and socialization. It seems like you're interested in trying to figure out what makes her "tick" as opposed to being interested in her BS. I think that trying too hard to be the way she wants you to be could be more harmful than helpful that way, if you don't really believe in it yourself. She's already told me that, I'm trying to warm up now haha.This is a community where INTJs can meet others with similar personalities and discuss a wide variety of both serious and casual topics.If you aren't an INTJ, you're welcome to join anyway if you would like to learn more about this personality type or participate in our discussions.
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OK so I'll get straight to the nitty gritty, I met an INTP girl, totally into her but there's a few things that really put me off: she has mentioned she likes to be teased and made to be wait for "stuff".
And from what I've seen with the way she acts around other people with me there she loves to flirt and loves to try and make me jealous. But srsly, try escalating making out into sex (obviously at home, unless you're both the adventurous type), and take your time getting to the "main event".
She's also very open about her sexual exploits and has told random people in public several times she wants to do "stuff" to me. No need to buy into whatever game she's trying to play, either she wants you or she doesn't.
Now, pretty much all INTJ's will find this behaviour insanely immature and very repulsive/annoying just like I do. Give it a shot and if she doesn't want you, at least you know now rather than trying to learn a complicated set of rules that only serves her desire to string you along.
I'm not saying anything bad about her but I want to know how to get on her level, like I know I hate flirting but I want some tips or something just to keep her interested? Because I don't think I'll be able to keep up with her game playing for very long. But, you could treat this situation like an experiment: gaining flirting skills that will help you when pursuing a better fit, and socialization. Now, pretty much all INTJ's will find this behaviour insanely immature and very repulsive/annoying just like I do.