As a fat woman, I've experienced the extreme shallowness that exists in our society.
However, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm totally unattractive—at least not in my eyes!
I've been told many times, "You're pretty.” Yes, I know I have a pretty face.
And, yes, I always take care of myself by waxing, getting pedicures and manicures, etc.
This doesn't change the fact that, according to our society, being fat means you are ugly. The excuse I have heard my entire life is that they are visual creatures.
Then men wonder why they can't find a nice girl who will be their confidante or best friend and more.
You can't find someone like that if you are constantly judging a woman on her weight before considering her other qualities. We may have extra cushioning, but we can do everything the skinny or average woman can—maybe even better. You’ve heard the saying, "The fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? Every man I've dated has appreciated my amazing baking and cooking skills, and if you asked them what they miss about me, they would probably first say, "Her tacos and burritos.” Well, you would think maybe this would keep them, but sometimes life doesn't turn out the way you would imagine.
I don't want to generalize fat or thin women, but I find that fat women often have more of an appreciation for food. All I know is that men need to change their perception of fat women and give us a chance.
Men need to stop being so obsessed with looks and dig deeper into who a person is.
I recently joined an online dating site, and so far all I've attracted are men my father's age or older. I think you are much more compatible with someone within a few years of your own age.
Maybe that's my own shallowness rearing its ugly head!
But my takeaway from this online dating situation is that it proves to me that men just don't like fat women.