I have experienced this first hand on bad dates with divorced men who are anxious and don't know what to do or say.
Cynical statements about why the marriage didn't work out will make any potential partner run for the hills.
Instead, focus on your date and discuss your interests and hobbies to get her excited about being with you.
If she asks about your ex and marriage, keep your answer brief and positive and convey how you are looking forward to having a close relationship again.
This is what I remembered about dating before marriage: I would go to one of the frat parties on a given weekend and hang out with a group of friends.
There would be a really cute guy standing by the keg of beer, we would smile at one another, strike up a conversation and exchange phone numbers.
He might call the next day to chat and then ask me to go to the toga party with him that weekend.If I were really lucky, he would ask me to hang out before the party to have a beer that wasn't from the tap and eat a burger at the local greasy joint.If we still liked one another then we would get together, study and go to more parties to "hang out." This was dating when I was in college and the only dating I really knew before marriage.Fast forward to dating after divorce, and everything is completely different.Whether you married young like I did or had been in a long marriage, you may feel clueless about how to date again.It's like waking up from a coma and finding yourself in a foreign land, having to learn a new language and understand different social norms.