Whatever the case, Francis and Mialon conclude that "our findings provide little evidence to support the validity of the wedding industry’s general message that connects expensive weddings with positive marital outcomes." The average wedding now costs about ,000, however, so this does not bode well.
Now, feel free to navigate to the upper left-hand corner of this page, click on the "print" button, and lay this article before the mascara-streaked face of the nearest Bridezilla.
I am a 47-year-old woman whose commitment to monogamy, at the very end, came unglued. I don’t generally even enjoy men; I had an entirely manageable life and planned to go to my grave taking with me, as I do most nights to my bed, a glass of merlot and a good book. We cried, we rent our hair, we bewailed the fate of our children.
And yet at the end of the day—literally during a five o’clock counseling appointment, as the golden late-afternoon sunlight spilled over the wall of Balinese masks—when given the final choice by our longtime family therapist, who stands in as our shaman, mother, or priest, I realized … Heart-shattering as this moment was—a gravestone sunk down on two decades of history—I would not be able to replace the romantic memory of my fellow transgressor with the more suitable image of my husband, which is what it would take in modern-therapy terms to knit our family’s domestic construct back together.In women’s-magazine parlance, I did not have the strength to “work on” falling in love again in my marriage.And as Laura Kipnis railed in Against Love, and as everyone knows, Good relationships take work. Indeed, what also came out that afternoon were the many tasks I—like so many other working/co-parenting/married mothers—have been doing for so many years and tearfully declared I would continue doing.A diamond is forever, but an expensive engagement ring means the marriage might not last that long. Men are 50 percent more likely to end up divorced when they said their partner's looks were important in their decision to get married, and women are 60 percent more likely to end up divorced when they cared about their partner’s wealth, compared to people who said they cared about neither. Honeymoons decrease the chances of divorce by 41 percent.* * *Part of the study echoes what we already know about marriage: That it's increasingly for rich people—who make a lot and can afford honeymoons.According to a new study, spending between ,000 and ,000 on an engagement ring is significantly associated with an increase in the risk of divorce. They analyzed income, religious attendance, how important attractiveness was to each partner, wedding attendance, and other metrics to determine the aspects associated with eventual marital dissolution. Dating for a while before tying the knot might indicate a level of planning that suggests the couple is in it for the long haul.
The data scientist Randal Olson recently visualized some of the findings from a paper by Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon, two researchers at Emory University who studied 3,000 married couples in the U. Their findings offer some take-aways for couples who want to minimize their chances of divorce: You should date for three years before popping the question. Similarly, a well-attended ceremony might be a proxy for a large family that pressures and/or supports the couple and helps them stay together.
A strong marriage, in other words, is an intentional one.
But the other findings, like the fact that expensive rings and ceremonies don't yield happier unions, are more surprising.
Perhaps ill-matched couples use giant diamonds or flashy weddings to cover up the cracks in their emotional foundations.
Or maybe couples that have modest rings and receptions feel that their boundless love is a celebration enough.
Maybe this is all being thrown by some hidden Kardashian variable that none of us has uncovered yet.