Dating for 17 year olds

An NSPCC spokesman said: 'We welcome Tinder's decision to raise the age of users.

It was deeply worrying that a dating app allowed children below the age of consent to use their site, which put them at risk of being contacted by much older users.'However, for this decision to be effective there needs to be robust age verification tools across all platforms so that users cannot falsify their age – otherwise this risks becoming a hollow gesture.

I would like to have information on how to handle my 17-year-old daughter. If so should I have the biggest say in who she should go out with?

I don't want my daughter messing up because she has so much going for her.

First, let me address your specific parenting questions.

Whether or not your 17-year-old daughter is "ready" for dating is best determined by your daughter, not you or I.

You should certainly honor her choice of whom she dates and stay connected to her (being careful not to suffocate her with prying questions) during this emotional time.

Remember what it was like when we all "took the leap" into the dizzying teenage dating world.

Kids are very vulnerable during these years and have a need for privacy that should be respected.

That doesn't mean that you and she should not maintain any close relationship that you have established -- it means that she needs to feel independent from you so she can move confidently into her young adulthood.

On issues like going out with friends who drive, drinking, drugs, sexuality and sex, we all hope that the values and beliefs that we have espoused to our kids will guide them as they navigate the troubled waters of adolescence.

We cannot forbid our teens from doing things we dislike -- that doesn't work.

We can keep the communication lines open, even if it appears that they are not listening.

The worst thing to do at this stage is to become frustrated and to stop talking to them.