I know my kids are young, but they will be independent adults one day. A man is allowed to not want to date a 400lb woman if he doesn’t find her attractive.
I caught a lot of flak for this post, in which I empathized with a woman who suffers from debilitating depression, but let her know that men were perfectly entitled to choose a healthy, normally functioning partner instead. Is it fair that women discriminate against short men? Do you think subtracting that from your bank account might have an effect on you?Do you think that the all-encompassing time-intensive nature of caring for an autistic child might impact your relationship, quality time, siblings, vacations, sitters, and sex drive? Listen, my wife has a cousin who is wheelchair-bound with MS and has a supportive partner.I got an email from a reader the other day who found a great guy although she’s blind. I am currently in a relationship with a great man who has kids of his own.My dilemma is that one of his children is special needs (autistic) and will likely never live independently, only possibly in a group home as a young adult in his 20s.
Raising him will very likely be quite difficult and stressful.
It will be life changing if I choose him as a partner, for me and my kids.
I enjoy the freedom I have to travel and enjoy my kids, and this would all change very drastically.
The man is great…consistent in how he treats me, loving, kind, and generous.
If it weren’t for his son I would continue the relationship and see where it leads.
But I am having a lot of anxiety about the possibility of committing to him and his child long term.